Stage One Of Adoption

Stage one of the adoption process started for us early February 2016 and is meant to take two months to complete.  During this time we were assigned our Social Worker, who visited us during this time to go through everything we needed to do.  We both sent off for our DBS checks first, as this…

Meeting our Social Worker

Mid Feb 2016 Hubby received an email from our Social Worker introducing herself. She wants to arrange to come see us ASAP. One of the dates is this Thursday, so hopefully we can do it. Really looking forward to meeting her, although I’m super nervous too. This is great news. ……………………………………………………………. Had another email from…

Stage One

Feb 2016 Posted our forms off at lunch today. Kind of wanted to take a photo of me doing it. Feels like such a huge step. I resisted the urge though. Can’t wait to get this started.  ……………………………………………………………. Emailed the Senior Social Worker to thank her for her visit and for the great news. Also…

The devil is in the detail

These hugely traumatic and life altering moments will always stay with me. They are part of me and although time has been a healer they will always be there.  The details of what actually happened with each miscarriage are hazy, and me and my husband disagree with some points. Not really surprising when you have…

Decision time

Feb 2016 So after checking my email constantly since Monday, we have our answer!! We can start our journey whenever we want. That means now!!! I cannot believe how good it feels to know we can start Stage 1 now, without a three month delay. Went to Harvester to celebrate (any excuse!). Just so happy,…

Our first visit

Feb 2016 Never felt so nervous!! But we are finally here…roll on 2:30… Well that’s it done, 2.5hrs of questions and it’s over. Feeling mostly positive about the whole experience.  Got lots more information on things, especially Foster 2 Adopt. Although I’m still not sure it’s for me personally.  The Senior Social Worker and the…

Documenting our journey

Before we officially started the process, I started writing in a notebook to document our journey. I     should of just started a blog back then and made this whole telling of our story easier!!! Anyway this was the first entry from January 2016; Tomorrow we finally start the amazing journey to become parents….

And so it starts

We made our first enquiry to a local(ish) adoption agency on Christmas Eve 2015.  Christmas, the past couple of years, had been hard; we were desperate for a family and didn’t have one, one of our babies had been due 22nd December, we began miscarrying another on Boxing Day and finally we had only just…

When the trying stops

When we decided to stop trying for a baby ourselves and go down the adoption route to start our family, there were such mixed emotions.  But the one over riding feeling above all else was one of relief!  No more tracking of my menstrual cycle, no more scheduled sex, no more hoping that I would…

Decisions decisions….

We went back to the specialist after our fourth miscarriage, to be told that we had already exhausted all the options available to us. Our only other option would be to go down the research route and she would be happy to refer us.  Over the 18months in which we had been trying and ultimately…

Dear NHS

This is an angry post!  So I’d  like to start out by saying how amazing I think it is that we have the NHS and that we are so lucky to have so many men and women working tirelessly to keep us healthy and alive.  I have had some fantastic dealings with medical professionals during…

And then there were four

So the fact that we have started our family through adoption kind of gives away the ending of this particular tragic story.  But none the less it’s part of the journey so here it is; So we are happily/cautiously carrying on our normal lives waiting to find out whether we are having one baby or…